I almost drove off the road when I heard this radio spot.
Our ad didn’t hit the airwaves for last Christmas…but it’s ready for this year. Even though I had already heard the final ad, I nearly drove off the road when I heard it in my car the other day.
One of the things that every man should know is how to get her in the mood. Not every woman is wired the same way, so they may get more into some things than others. Some of the triggers seem to be pretty universal so here are a few that you can try…
Make Her Blush
Getting her to blush is a great way to start. That does not mean to embarrass her in public, but rather to do subtle things that will do the trick. Think of sending her a sexy/dirty text message, so that she is the only one who sees it. Getting it, even when no one else sees it, seems a little adventurous when you say the right things. So…go ahead and send her some sexting.
Compliments are a great way to get her in the mood, but not just any compliment; real ones. You should also try to make it something that she may have not heard before. Something that is true, but that it is not as noticeable. If her eyes look amazing then maybe her lips are also great; mention her lips instead of her eyes and you will get better results. Put some thought into it.
She is a Lady
It does not matter what your intentions are with her. You may not be looking for a relationship; you both may know that it is only a one night stand. That does not mean that you should treat it as such. Women like to be treated as ladies even when there is not much future for a relationship. Be a gentleman, and you will win her over!
This may sound like something that people are making up, but women love intelligent guys. You should not be arrogant or brag about the college you went to and about your PhD. Instead, you should know what you are talking about and always remember to stop and listen to her too.
Be A Bit Daring
Don’t be afraid of a little adventure in public. That does not mean to have full sex in the park, but you should not be afraid to be a little inappropriate. Think about a little game of footsies under the table, or a little of something else under the table. Why not?
All Day Flirting
You should flirt with her to make her anticipate the date. A couple of texts through the day with a little spice in them will do the trick. Tell her how great you think she looks and if you are already dating, then tell her all the things you want to do the moment you see her.
When you’re in the mood, it’s a sure bet that the last thing on your mind is boosting your immune system or maintaining a healthy weight. Yet good sex offers those health benefits and more.
1) Sex boosts immunity
We all have that friend or colleague who never gets sick — not even a sniffle. Her secret could be sex. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobin A or, for short, IgA; that’s the stuff that fights off colds and other infections. Deduction: Sex = better immune system. Of course, you could eat an apple a day instead… your choice.
2) Sex de-stresses
Stressed out? You could try yoga, a glass of wine, a cry fest on your shrink’s couch or — yes, a romp in the sack. That’s right: Sex is a proven stress reliever. Although your blood pressure may shoot for the roof while in the act, maintaining a healthy sex life results in overall lower blood pressure and stress reduction.
3) Sex increases heart health
Although having a heart attack while in the act may make for great melodramatic film, the likelihood is slim to none. Sex is actually heart healthy. For men in particular, those who engage in sexual activity two or more times per week reduce their risk of heart attack compared to those who have sex less than once per month — not that you had to ever convince a guy to do it.
4) Sex promotes happy sleep cycles
Ever wonder why your man nods off after you’ve just rocked his world?! It’s because of a little chemical called oxytocin that’s released during orgasm. While it’s annoying that he drifts off into dreamland when you may be ready for a round two, your own sleep cycle will be blissful, too, because this chemical promotes healthier sleep. In turn, good sleep is associated with weight and blood pressure maintenance.
5) Sex is a natural pain killer
Oxytocin also increases endorphins and decreases pain, particularly that of headaches — which means that your old backpocket headache excuse isn’t going to cut it anymore. Further, a romp in the sack also accelerates the healing of wounds — even stubborn sores such as those suffered by diabetics — by regenerating certain cells, so consider sex an excellent prescriptive cure.
6) Sex can help you shed pounds
Say you have a few pounds to lose but can’t bear the thought of abandoning your love affair with nachos. Sex may be an option! While it may not produce the same kind of weight loss or muscle toning as traditional cardio, you will burn 170 calories per hour — about a pound after 21 hour-long sessions.
7) Sex strengthens your bond
Oxytocin is also known as the “love hormone” because it helps us build trust and bond with one other, so naturally, the more sex a couple has, the more intimacy is built. It also has been linked with a feeling of generosity, so you can thank oxytocin for that bouquet of flowers or breakfast in bed you recently got.
8) Sex makes you feel hot!
A core component of great sex is good self-esteem. And when your self-esteem is healthy and you have sex, your self image is boosted even higher. By allowing yourself to be uniquely and beautifully you, and appreciated for that, you wind up feeling wonderful and confident from the inside out.
9) Sex lowers cancer risk
We love our guys, so let’s love their prostates, too, by letting them get off more often. Studies show that men in their 20s who ejaculate five or more times a week reduce their risk of getting prostate cancer by a third, whereas older men reporting 21 or more ejaculations per month lowered theirs. And for us gals, more sex has been shown to decrease risk of breast cancer.
10) Sex produces more sperm
In several studies, men who had frequent intercourse had higher volumes of semen, higher sperm counts and higher percentages of healthier sperm than men having less sex. And his good semen is good for you in that, when absorbed, it can combat depression, boost your energy and even aid in easier baby deliveries.
If you have PAIN DURING SEX
This is perhaps the most complex female sexual dysfunction (FSD). There can be a psychological component in women who have been abused or had a painful first sexual experience, but just as often there’s a medical reason. The most common is dryness caused by atrophy of the vaginal tissues when estrogen levels drop. Breastfeeding can also cause temporary dryness. Other possible medical causes, says Naughton, are urinary tract or yeast infections, chronic vulva pain, constipation or hysterectomy. Whatever the cause, once you experience pain, your pelvic muscles can reflexively contract in anticipation when you attempt to have sex, making penetration even more painful.
- Get a lube job! Aloe Cadabra is an all-natural lubricant made with organic aloe vera. Another option is Sliquid Organics, they make water-based lubricants with no petroleum products or irritants.
- Eat roots and berries Koonce says that vaginal dryness can signal a kidney yin deficiency and suggests adding black mulberries and amaranth to yogurt, snacking on goji berries and spooning maca root powder into smoothies and cereals.
- Try homeopathy Staphysagria is recommended for a tender vaginal area. Boiron pellets are available at health food stores for about $5.
- Do your Kegels! We tend to think of these exercises for tightening the pelvic-floor muscles, but “Kegels help you learn to relax those muscles as well,” says Naughton.
A highly important pagan holiday that celebrates the fertility of the spring season and the reproduction that occurs during this important time of year.
A celebrated animal known for its amazing reproductive capacity. Rabbits are sometimes known to engage in sexual frenzies and the result is…a hell of a lot more rabbits!
Eggs are an important symbol of fertility and were a highly prized symbol during the Easter holiday.
Sunday is the perfect time for staying in bed, eating chocolate and having sex.
A woman may for one reason or another want to start getting in touch with her sexuality. It may be that for some reason she did not become familiar with her body through masturbation. The thing is that masturbation can help a woman have a more fulfilling sex life when she’s with her lover because she learns about the things that she likes. If you are just starting or want to improve your very own “me time” here are 6 female masturbation secrets.
Vibrators can give you some of the best orgasms that you will have. If you speak to women who use vibrators you will hear how vibrators provide one of the strongest and most consistent forms of stimulation. They are the hottest sex toys, and their popularity is still growing. As the demand for vibrators increases, often sold under the guise of “personal massagers”, sex toy manufacturers have responded by developing dozens of different types, including bullet vibrators, rabbit vibrators, waterproof vibrators and clitoral vibrators…just to name a few.
Dildos are another type of sex toys that are great for the woman that finds all vibrators too intense. Dildos are sex toys designed for vaginal or anal penetration. Dildos don’t ‘do’ anything other than what we make them do (i.e. they don’t have motors or moving parts). The pleasure from dildos is derived almost exclusively through penetration. Many people enjoy the feeling of pressure and fullness that dildos offer. If you are a fan of a particular size then you can simply shop online and get what you desire.
You Have Two Hands
“Our fingers are ideal tools for learning what type of pressure, speed, and stroke work the best,” says Sadie Allison, sex educator and author of Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure. You have two great orgasm triggers to help you achieve great orgasms. You have your clitoris and your g-spot, but you will not be able to reach them with one hand. Instead of settling for just one good sensation you can have both. You can use both hands and you will reach your peak a lot faster and in a more satisfying way. Bottom line: You’re the master of your own domain. It takes trial and error to figure out what makes you tick. Experiment and you’ll be surprised by the sexy sensations you can provoke.
Do What Feels Right
Go with what your body responds to. If you let yourself get all pent up with worry then it can be difficult to follow what your body is asking you to do. Masturbation is all about what feels good. Try touching yourself in ways you haven’t before and go with the flow.
Set The Mood
Setting the mood is very important when you want to have some play time. The things that you should consider are the atmosphere; do you feel comfortable? Make sure that you will not be distracted by the telephone, people knocking on your door, or any other distractions. You should be completely relaxed so that you can have all the fun possible. One of the most private places to awaken your senses is in the tub. To get started, draw a bubble bath. As you soak in the warm water, your muscle tension will melt.
Help Your Mind
Women are not as visual as men; men like to have a picture in front of them while women make the picture in their minds. That does not mean that you should not try to get some help. Some women find reading erotica a great way of getting in the mood for play time. If you have a particular niche that you like then you can get some of these stories online and they are a great masturbation starter.
It is not always easy to get a woman to orgasm before the guy…unless he knows what he is doing. It is not just about length of the sexual encounter, it is also about the things that a man can do to get her to that moment; that does not mean that timing is not important, a woman will usually take an average of close to twenty minutes to reach her orgasm, but you cannot rely on repetitiveness if you want to get her there. Foreplay is incredibly important because it gets the oven warm before the dough goes in. Foreplay together with the following techniques and positions will ensure that she will reach orgasm every time.
You may not know what missionary plus is, because usually people do not talk about it much, but it is a variation of the missionary position. Just like on regular missionary the man will be on top and she will be on the bottom, but the plus stands for an item that you will need; that item is a pillow. Placing the pillow under her lower back puts her in a different angle. The objective is for the penis to hit her g-spot with every thrust. When done right the lady will have one of the strongest orgasms that she has ever experienced, and the best thing is that it does not take much more effort than missionary. There is no reason not to try this if you are having sex in bed because the pillows will be handy.
Though not all women find this position appealing, it is one of the most effective ones for her to reach orgasm. The reason for that is, you cannot mess this one up unless you try to do too much. She is in control and she knows where the right spot is; so she will play to that. All that a guy has to do is literally lay back and enjoy the ride. However be warned that this position is tiring on a woman’s legs because they do most of the work, and hands can get a bit tired as well so you should not expect her to be there for the entire time. Get her warmed up on other positions and you can use this as the finisher. Giddy up!
This position is a favorite where she lays on her stomach and he penetrates from behind while on top of her. This position allows for the penis to hit the front wall of the vagina, and that means…the g-spot. There is also a lot of contact which is highly valued by women. Whichever position you try, you should always keep in mind that on average a man will reach orgasm a lot faster than a woman, so do try oral sex and extra foreplay on her. These positions are great, but after all; it is you that she wants to give her the next orgasm. Do not keep sex monotone, be a little adventurous and you will give her the best sex of her life.
When it comes to oral sex for either gender, good techniques are a bit of an art form. This makes it important to be comfortable to talk about it, ask directions and even read about different methods. Any expert will tell you one of the best ways to learn is from mistakes. When it comes to blowjobs there are just some major mistakes you want to avoid at all costs. These four are at the top of the list for steering clear of.
Having a Dry Mouth
Let’s face it; a lot of nookie happens after a few cocktails. This can mean you’re heading toward the bedroom with a dry or pasty mouth and tongue. If this is the case you’ll want to grab a glass of water. Giving a blowjob with a dry mouth is uncomfortable for both partners and can even cause micro abrasions on the skin. Grab a glass of water to have near you while going down on your man.
Thinking a Little Nipping Might Be Nice?
Very few men are going to want you to bite their Johnson. The general rule here is unless he asks- twice, leave your teeth out of the picture. Lots of tongue, lips and using your hands are a great idea. Having a lot of saliva is an excellent idea. But do not use your teeth unless you hear him beg for it.
Forgetting the ‘Boys’
Blowjobs that treat the balls like they are invisible are lame. If you’re nervous about heading to this area then go slow and caress his thighs a lot. Your hands are just as important as your mouth when giving head. It’s also important to remember he has very sensitive thighs and will enjoy a gentle cupping of his testis as you give him pleasure.
Gagging or Acting Grossed Out
This is the most important mistake to avoid of all. You wouldn’t like it if the role was reversed. As long as your man has good hygiene it isn’t gross and you shouldn’t make him feel that way; not even if you’re trying to ‘joke.’ Have a plan for what you are going to do with the semen (by every account swallowing is a man’s favorite) so that you don’t have a clumsy finish to your loving gesture. If you steer clear of these mistakes you’ll be well on your way to rocking your man’s world with the best blowjob he’s had!
Those moments couples spend making love can erase an entire week or stress from the workplace. For this reason, among others, many people want to know ways to make it last. Here are a few tips to consider trying.
When was the last time you gave your partner a foot massage? What about giving them a sponge bath, or maybe take a shower together? Many times, with busy schedules and work weeks we start to rush through our intimate moments with our lovers. One of the best ways to make your love making session last longer, is to put a little massage into it. Spend some time touching your partner in areas you love on their body, or places they love to be touched. Try alternating between firm and feathery touches as well.
There are rings on the market to go around the base of the penis to help make the erection last longer and prolong ejaculation. These seem to be one of the most popular methods that couples use. In addition to slowing the orgasm down, certain styles will rub a woman’s body in a manner to give her more pleasure as well. Cock rings can be gotten a hold of fairly inexpensively and have a lot of positive feedback.
Taking a Breather
One of the safest and most tried and true methods of stretching intercourse out as long as possible is to take breathers…pause for a moment. You can also try switching things up and moving to positions that are a little less stimulating. This may mean creating a new position or to stopping altogether until pulses return to the normal rate. You don’t have to stop completely, you can move to other activities that are equally as enjoyable until you are able to continue without bursting.
Creams & Over the Counter Help
There are many different products on the market that have claims to help prolong intercourse and pleasure. Before trying any of these you should consider the product seriously. Whether it’s something you’re planning on ingesting or something that is topical you want to know what you’re using. Check out any reviews and read the list of ingredients.
Cozy is comfortable, but not sexy
Couples lucky enough to be emotionally genuine with each other share so many real moments, they need to pay special attention to creating magical ones because great sex requires magic. Recapture a good sex life but only once you admit that reigniting lust and romance takes creativity and a commitment of time and energy.